Parents not receiving child support unite against deadbeat parents.
Wanted to say hello. It's been a while since my last post.
I have been busy with class.....and have an A with a few months left. Then I'll be going to a job where I'm paid well and one I enjoy.
I have to say I've taken a loooong break from thinking about child support...I'm not saying that I'm not going for it but I've realized in the process from last year and early on this year I was getting angry at the support I WASN'T getting. I found myself sad, frustrated, and very angry. It wasn't doing my any good especially for my son.
I think to be honest we are trying to MAKE the noncustodial parent into something they are NEVER going to be...responsible....loving parents.
I DO believe in some cases it's better the parent is NOT there.
I have to say I've taken a loooong break from thinking about child support...I'm not saying that I'm not going for it but I've realized in the process from last year and early on this year I was getting angry at the support I WASN'T getting. I found myself sad, frustrated, and very angry. It wasn't doing my any good especially for my son.
I think to be honest we are trying to MAKE the noncustodial parent into something they are NEVER going to be...responsible....loving parents.
I DO believe in some cases it's better the parent is NOT there.
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Permalink Reply by Tarah on -
Thanks for the reply. I know what you mean by obsessed over the child support thing. I'm not obsessed with it anymore but was in the past and realized it was really tearing me apart...to a point was I was just in tears. I was constantly hearing from some people that I wasn't doing enough to get child support. And all I thought was ...short of stalking the guy...I was doing everything. =)
I truly think the best thing to do in the process to really be there for your child or children....do things to make you happy, and be around people who care.
In the end I think being the best parent you can be is really all that matters. And I know from my own experience being in the moment and having fun with my son is what really matters in the end. And I do believe the parent who is not present will regret not being there.
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Permalink Reply by Tammy F on -
I too have been focusing more on my daughter and on school then stressing about the child support we are not receiving. I'm glad to hear about your future job! What are you going to school for?
I'm still angry and frustrated, but really more frustrated with the system then anything else. If the system was doing their part to collect the support I would feel much better about the whole thing even without receiving the support. We can't revamp a person who doesn't take care of their obligations, but the system should make sure that they have to face consequences for their actions (or lack there of.)
It sounds like you guys are doing great and I'm glad to hear it :)
Tammy
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Permalink Reply by Tarah on
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I completely agree with you that 'the system" needs a major overhaul and it shouldn't be so tough in get support in the first place.
I was telling someone about how hard it is to get child support and the reply was ..well you're dealing with someone (noncustodial parent) who is making it hard. But my thoughts are isn't that what Child Enforcement was established to do...get support from people unwilling to volunteer to take action in their childs life.
To this day I can't wrap my brain around how someone is unwilling not there for there own child. It still makes no sense to me. And it really is pathetic is have to in a way almost beg someone to support a child.
It sounds like you're doing well also. And maybe one day we're still meet in person.
Hope all is well. =)
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