Parents not receiving child support unite against deadbeat parents.

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Husband & I are separated, child support & visitation was ordered as an ancillary proceeding to a dv injunction. The child support/visitation order expires in Nov, he was ordered to begin paying 2x/mo on 5/21. He made a partial 1st pymt, full 2nd pymt, but nothing for the last month. Since this is related to a DV injunction, he has had two monthly status hearings, he is supposed to be proving he is in counseling & paying support. He was a no show the 1st time, I went to show he only paid the partial pymt, & proof he had gotten a lot of prescriptions filled, judge changed his visitation to supervised. Last Thurs was 2nd hearing, the judge was shown that he had not paid child support or attended counseling as ordered, got more rx filled, and cancelled all his future sup visitation appts. Judge set another hearing in chambers for tom., but seems more upset that I dropped his health ins! Anyone know what I can expect?

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Permalink Reply by Connie Bryan on July 15, 2009 at 12:41pm: Re-read that and wanted to clarify, the Judge didn't cancel the supervised visitation appointments, Husband did. Said he wasn't paying child support if he didn't get his weekend visitation back, said he would use that money for a lawyer. I told the judge he said this, Husband agreed that he had said it, the judge told him to pay his child support, tomorrow is the hearing, and nothing has been paid as of yet.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Lisa on July 15, 2009 at 1:52pm: I was in a similar situation when I got divorced. My husband refused to pay his child support even though he was financially able to. He missed the first 2 hearings and attended the third. At the third hearing the judge made him pay a percentage of what he hadn't paid and threatened him with an arrest if he did not continue to pay. I received that support because my ex had to write a check at the court house. My ex then didn't pay anymore. I showed up at the 4th hearing and my ex did not. There was a warrant issued on my ex for contempt of court and his driver's license was suspended. Now he is just running with a warrant, but if he is ever stopped by the police the case will progress. I am sorry about your situation. I hope it works out for you.

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Permalink Reply by Connie Bryan on July 15, 2009 at 1:58pm: My husband's license is suspended already due to other problems unrelated to Child support, so that wouldn't bother him at all. I hope your situation works out too.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Lisa on July 15, 2009 at 3:27pm: Is he supposed to make his own support payments or are they deducted from his paycheck? If there is an income decuction order and he is working that wouldn't give him much of a choice but to pay.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Connie Bryan on July 15, 2009 at 3:31pm: There's no IDO, its a temp order because it expires in November (by then they figure we should have done the divorce or reconciled). He is getting unemployment, and he is supposed to send it to Tallahassee, but he's not, and last week the judge told him to pay it immediately. We go back tomorrow.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Tammy F on July 15, 2009 at 5:32pm: If he shows tomorrow the judge should make him pay something towards back pay. It gets easier when there is an IDO, but with the amount of unemployment (I'm receiving that now) I can't imagine it would be too much (unfortunately.) If the judge already told him to pay it immediately and he hasn't, he could be held in contempt.
I hope tomorrow goes good for you.

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Permalink Reply by Connie Bryan on July 16, 2009 at 9:24am: He went to the house yesterday and put a certified check in my mailbox for a payments that brings him to only a little more than one payment behind now. This is a violation of the order though, because 1) I have a injunction for protection that keeps him 500 ft from the house, & 2) He's supposed to send it to Tallahassee. He did this just to get the payment in before court today. I called and made a police report because he violated the protection order, but I feel like an idiot because I'm essentially saying, My Husband brought me a check!!!! Lock him up! My fear is that if he comes to the house to 'do nice', then when he comes for another reason, the injunction won't hold up, because I never called when he came to the house before. Any advice?; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Tammy F on July 16, 2009 at 6:36pm: Connie,

I haven't been in that situation, but I believe you definetly did the right thing by calling the police. Not to be vindictive, just to protect yourself in the future. I think it was the smart thing to do. By him only being one payment behind (in my experience) the judge will probably just tell him to catch up, and to send the payments through Tallahassee in the future. I hope court goes well for you today.

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Permalink Reply by Connie Bryan on July 20, 2009 at 12:22pm: The judge disagreed that I did the right thing and asked that I not press charges, reminded him that he cannot go to the house, and that his payments are to be made to Tallahassee, and that he has to get caught up by today. Also restored his biweekly weekend visits, supervised by his grandmother. We have another status hearing in a month. I'm so disappointed!; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Tammy F on July 20, 2009 at 12:51pm: I'm sorry to hear that. Sometimes it seems your damned if you do and damned if you don't. Hopefully he will catch up his payments today. I would just keep a diary of everything in case you need it in the future. Please let us know what happens next month.

Thank you,
Tammy

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